Friends as Community

#community #friendship #support #health Mar 15, 2022

I was talking with a colleague of mine that I met while writing my digital course, Flexible Over 50. We have weekly calls to review progress and set up intentions for the next week. She told me that her best friend died last Tuesday. Her friend was 63 and had moved with her husband to Florida this year getting ready to retire. The weekend before she passed away, she had a brain aneurism, and subsequent surgery, but never regained consciousness. My colleague and her husband planned to move to Florida at the end of this year to retire in a nearby community. I don’t think any of us know the right thing to say when someone is grieving. Is there anything we can really say when we can’t begin to understand what someone else is feeling?

As part of the conversation, this woman was mentioning tribe and how important it was to have a group of supportive people.

After we hung up, my interest was sparked by the thought of tribe and I got out a copy of my book - Women Supporting Women: Redefining Friendship, Tribe, and Community.

I opened to the section talking about common roadblocks. Sometimes, I think things like pausing at a section in the book happen because either I or someone else needs to hear what it has to say.

This is what I came up with:

10 things to do to support yourself and your community

  • Align your actions with your values
  • Get rid of self-criticism and blame
  • Acknowledge there’s “nothing wrong with you”
  • Acknowledge that you are good enough, worthy, and capable
  • Stop resisting change
  • Make decisions that are not based on fear
  • Work towards reducing stress and anxiety
  • Know that you don’t have to feel stuck and can move forward
  • Reset your limiting beliefs
  • Know that in the end, everything will be okay

Wow! That’s a pretty tall order! Do you think we can all just wake up tomorrow and have all this accomplished? 

The right community for you helps you -

  • Know that you don’t have to go it alone
  • Feel supported and encouraged
  • Be in an environment where you can be your authentic self without judgement
  • Remind yourself to take a slow deep breath
  • Break your stressors down into smaller steps

Are you in a community? Are you part of a community that supports you the way you want to be supported? Do you in turn offer support to someone else? Are there any actions you need to take to set yourself up with the right people for you?

#community #friendship #support #health #breath
You are amazing! You are enough. You are worthy.

 All my best,


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About Nancy Whitman

Nancy Whitman is a certified yoga therapist (C-IAYT), yoga teacher, and author. She specializes in empowering you to improve your well-being. Nancy is registered with the Yoga Alliance as ERYT-500 and is certified through ACE as a personal trainer, health coach, and fitness instructor. She has a Master's degree in Education, MaEd.


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